Do you behave like a confident attractive woman or one who is desperate?

“Jack”

You meet an awesome guy ‘Jack’ and he’s so incredible! The last time you two chatted, you spoke for hours but it merely felt like minutes. As a result, your phone is with you 24/7 because you simply cannot risk missing a phone call or even a message from him.

Throughout the day, you’re wondering if ‘Jack’ is going to call you. As such, you can barely function because your thoughts are occupied with daydreams of him. Should you take the initiative to call him? But you’ve already sent him at least four messages for the day.

When he finally gets around to calling you, he senses that you’re upset and he has no clue why. In addition, some days have passed and his calls have become sparse. Has ‘Jack’ lost interest already…just like ‘David’, ‘Sam’ and ‘Errol’? Perhaps, your desperation has scared another guy away. It’s about time you become a confident attractive woman again.

Now, you are determined to put an end to sabotaging your own love life. But you’re a little clueless about what to do. Can your desperation ever be cured? Can you regain your confidence?

Time for change

Indeed, you’re in a good place. The first step to being cured is admitting the truth about your state of desperation. Actually, you don’t need to be ashamed of it because it’s quite common among singles (men and women alike). The battlefield of life has left you dry, wounded and desperate, but you need to be reminded that you are a treasure and worthy to be adored and loved.

The good news is that you can overcome it once and for all. I did and you can too! If you’re not sure if you’re suffering from desperation, check out ‘The Top Attraction Killer – 5 Signs You Have It’.

Undoubtedly, the cure to desperation is gaining confidence. Whether you marry in the future or not, it is important that you become a confident woman of God, which in itself, is extremely attractive. Confidence will enhance every relationship in your life and even your career.

Here are some helpful steps to become a more confident attractive woman.

1) Get a life.

At this point of time of your life, you need to focus on building a life that you absolutely love. More importantly, you need to be at a point where you enjoy your own company. If you don’t enjoy being you, why should someone else join your ‘party’?

You cannot wait for a man to begin having a time of your life. The poor man will feel overburdened with that weighty responsibility. A healthy godly man does not want to be a woman’s idol. Understandably, he will feel secure knowing that he’s not your only source of joy and fulfilment.

When a man communicates with you, he should sense that you’re enjoying your life immensely, with or without him. Moreover, he should be hearing the laughter in your voice as you speak about your day; hear the excitement of your life adventures; be inspired by the wisdom from your reading; be challenged and encouraged by your service to others around you; and be happy to hear about your experiences from hanging out with your friends. In essence, he should be intrigued by your life and want to be apart of that celebration.

When your life is vibrant and full, you’ll be so busy enjoying life that you would not spend all your time anxiously waiting for his phone call or his responses to your messages. As a matter of fact, he’ll have to call in advance to schedule to spend time with you.

Questions to consider:

• What do you enjoy doing the most (besides sleep!)?
• Who or what makes you laugh uncontrollably?
• How can you serve others more?
• What kind of service brings life to you?
• When you lay down to sleep and you reflect, what brings a smile to your face?
• Which relationships add joy to your life?
• With whom do you need to spend more time?
• If you were to never get married, how would you spend your time?

2) Value yourself.

If you don’t value yourself, don’t expect anyone else to value you. God has created all of us in His image and His likeness (Genesis 1:26) so you have an excellent foundation of significant value. With over 7.6 billion persons in the world, you are totally original and unique. Indeed, there has never been anyone like you in the past, anyone like you now or anyone like you to be born in the future. That being the case, you cannot be perfectly replaced.

“I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are your works, and that my soul knows very well.” Psalm 139:14

If you find yourself doubting your worth, here are some suggested action steps:

1. Set aside some extended time alone and ask the Holy Spirit to show you your positive blind spots.
2. Take a good look at yourself. What are your assets? What compliments do you receive about your personality or your skills or your physical attributes?
3. Ask loving family and friends to share with you what they enjoy about you; what makes you unique; and what benefits you bring into a relationship. If no one has anything good to say about you, then you either need new friends and/or you need some character changes.
4. Record all that you’ve learnt or rediscovered about yourself in the above points and thank God for them.
5. Plan to further maximize your strengths. For instance, if you learn that your smile is infectious, then make it a point to smile more even if you feel self-conscious about it.

If you are to be married, God will provide a man who will like and love the woman that you are. As such, you don’t need to pretend to be someone else. Simply allow your strengths to shine brighter and become a confident attractive woman!

3) Don’t waste your emotions on the wrong guy.

If you’re interested in a guy and you sense that he’s not that interested in you, leave him alone. Don’t waste your time. Of course, you can be friends with him, but don’t treat him more than a friend.

Too many single women waste their time and emotions on men who are not interested ENOUGH to pursue them. When the affection is not reciprocated, it affects their self-worth. Don’t even allow it to reach that far. I remember ‘Tom’. Nearly all my close female friends at the time told me that ‘Tom’ liked me. Eventually, I myself began to be convinced.

The problem with this situation is that ‘Tom’ never said anything directly to me. Important to note, he never clearly declared any interest in me. However, God brought a wonderful man who liked me ENOUGH to pursue me without the frustrating guessing game. It was beautiful! As a woman, you deserve to be pursued so don’t sell yourself short.

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” – Mark Twain

“Loving someone who doesn’t love you is like waiting for a ship at the airport.” ~ Unknown

4) Do a makeover.

We need to be practical as Christian women. When a woman feels good about her body and the way she looks, it affects how she walks, talks and her overall demeanor. Besides, our entire being is interconnected and it’ll be wise of us to pay attention to our physical beauty.

All of us have attributes that make us look beautiful. You may not be attractive to all men, but one man may be enthralled by your unique beauty. Therefore, the key is to discover and focus on what makes you feel beautiful. When you feel gorgeous in your own body, it will come across in your interactions with everyone, including men. Subsequently, you’ll become a confident attractive woman.

By the way, you don’t need to look like Miss Universe. Interestingly, beauty has more to do with how you feel about yourself. I have seen women who look quite the opposite to a ‘Miss Universe’ look and they are attractive. They take care of themselves and they exude a strong sense of confidence which is captivating.

Questions to ask yourself:

• What will make you feel more attractive?
• Do you like the way you look?
• Would a new hairstyle enhance your appearance?
• Is your wardrobe crying out for a makeover?
• Do you need to become fit?
• Which colors make you come alive?

In your makeover, please don’t start dressing scantily or sexily, because it screams ‘I’m desperate for male attention!’. Additionally, you risk attracting the wrong men. For more on this, read ‘6 Guys to Resist’.

Related article:

5 Rare Qualities Mature Christian Men Want

5) View single men as possible friends.

In the past, when a handsome guy came into my presence, it was my automatic response to immediately check his hand to see if there was a wedding band. Of course, I tried to look without being obvious!

I viewed every attractive eligible guy as a prospective partner for me. With a mindset like that, it was very difficult to focus on being just friends. Instead of being a confident attractive woman, I appeared desperate. I was preoccupied with questions like, ‘does he like me?’, ‘am I showing too much interest?’, ‘what did he mean when he said …?’, ‘how should I interpret when he did …?’ and on and on it went.

In short, I missed the whole point of knowing and loving my Christian brothers as fellow followers of Christ. As a result, it was very difficult to be myself around those guys. My ‘intense over-protective’ self overshadowed my ‘real enjoyable’ self. Needless to say, love did not blossom with any of those guys.

When next you meet a single guy that you might like, try to be interested in him as a friend. Think about him as a possible friend for life, and not as a potential mate. Whether or not he becomes your husband, you would have gained one more friend. Just as we don’t want men to be view us as sex objects, men also want to be valued for who they are and not merely marriage objects.

Questions to consider:

• How can I be a blessing to him?
• In what way can I best serve him as a sister?
• How can I encourage him?
• How can I pray for him?

6) Kill the marriage idol.

What is the absolute worst thing that can happen if you never get married? Ask yourself – “Would you lose your salvation? Would you be eternally unhappy? Would your parents disown you if you didn’t birth a grandchild?” To put it briefly, marriage is a temporary status that will soon be over. It will end when either partner dies. Is it worth it to be unhappy and discontent for something that is relatively short-lived in comparison to eternity?

Some years ago, I came to this point of surrender. If I never got married, I would be fine with being single for the rest of my life. Admittedly, it was not easy coming to that point. But afterwards, I started enjoying my single season once again without placing emphasis on getting married. I felt free! As a result, I became a confident attractive woman again. Even my relationships with men became healthier as my interaction with them changed. My focus was gaining a friend in a brother.

As a Christian, we need to continually hold everything in our lives with an open hand of surrender to God … even a good desire like marriage. I firmly believe that we should not allow anything or anyone (apart from God Himself) to have control over us. When you begin to realize that something or someone has an unhealthy hold on you, you need to take a step back and take an intentional break or implement limits.

Summary

In conclusion, you can cure desperation and become a confident attractive woman by following the above tips: getting a life; valuing yourself; not wasting your time on the wrong guy; doing a makeover; viewing single men as friends; and killing the marriage idol. This is not an exhaustive list, but those are the steps that I took to cure myself of desperation. Now, I’m married to a wonderful man who didn’t experience any desperate behaviour from me. Yippee!

I would love to hear your views on this matter. What makes a woman radiate with confidence? What has helped you on your journey to valuing yourself? Comment below and share your views. Subscribe and you’ll receive my weekly email tips on developing your relationships with God, yourself and with others. As a bonus, you’ll also receive your free ‘Know Yourself’ questionnaire. You want to ask a question? Subscribe and email me that question at any time. I personally answer all emails. I hope you found this helpful. Thanks for stopping by!:)

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What is the top attraction killer?

There seems to be a recurring theme in your life. You meet a fantastic guy. Subsequently, you hit it off (or so you think), but it quickly dies or never blossom into a committed relationship. Your friends and family think that you’re an amazing beautiful woman and wonder what is wrong with the single men around you. Are they blind?

Or is there something that you’re unknowingly doing that is short-circuiting your love life? If so, what is that top attraction killer? There could be many reasons contributing to your current single state, but the one not-so-obvious trait is DESPERATION. A state of desperation has very little to do with your physical attractiveness, intelligence, wit or your devotion to God. Many single women go through a period of desperation, spanning months or even years. Desperation acts like a ‘man repellant’. It is the top attraction killer.

I too have gone through the desperate phase and during that time, suitors were very very few. The persons who pursued me during that time were persons in whom I had not an ounce of interest. What a dilemma… no interest from the guys you like and keen interest from those you don’t like!

The most common contributing factors of desperation:

• You’ve experienced rejection due to a failed relationship;
• You sense that your biological clock is quickly ticking away and there’s no husband-to-be in sight;
• Your self-worth has been crushed due to a debilitating life event; and/or
• You have internalized demeaning and negative insults about your self-worth from persons in your life.

Factors one and two were my culprits. It wasn’t easy, but my freedom started when I faced my desperation. Like me, you may not even be aware of your desperate behavior. However, the sooner you come to terms with this, the faster than you can overcome it and increase your level of attractiveness. Like any real breakthrough in life, you must first face the truth.

Although it might not be obvious to us, men can ‘smell’ desperation in a woman. Is this top attraction killer evident in your life?

Here are some signs to help you see if the top attraction killer is in your life:

1) You get attached too quickly.

You just met ‘Charlie’. The mutual attraction was unexplainable! Furthermore, you had several long enjoyable conversations with him. You have so much in common that it must be a match made in Heaven. You begin to daydream about your wedding day with ‘Charlie’ as your much-desired long-awaited groom. What a beautiful wedding it will be! Who should you invite?

You begin to text ‘Charlie’ every day and you get upset when he is talking too long to respond. When you see him talking to another woman, you begin to get jealous and even give him the ‘cold shoulder’. You share with your girlfriends that you and ‘Charlie’ are becoming a couple. Poor ‘Charlie’! He’s oblivious that he’s featuring in your wedding dream. To him, you’re an attractive woman, but he hardly knows you. He’s perturbed that you’re so intense. He is beginning to wonder what has happened.

Ladies, if a man doesn’t plainly express to you that he’s romantically interested in you; that he wants to be in a relationship with you; or that he wants to marry you, do not begin to fantasize about your life with him as his wife. Even the shyest man on the face of the planet will get the courage to declare his love to the woman he wants (when he’s ready). Do not take this privilege away from him. You don’t want to force a man to be with you.

Questions to consider:

Do you …

• Find yourself fantasizing about the ‘new guy’ shortly after meeting him?
• Think that you’re in a relationship with someone who has made no such  commitment?
• Bring up the talk of marriage too quickly?
• Come across as too intense?
• Share your feelings too soon?
• Get upset when he’s taking too long to reply to your messages?
• Convince yourself that a guy likes you and he has made no such indications?

If you get attached too quickly, that top attraction killer is evident!

2) You’ve lost your head.

You once believed that you’ll wait until marriage for sex. But now, you’ve thrown that virtue away to please with your love interest. Perhaps, you tolerate abuse because you’re afraid of remaining single all the days of your life. When you’re desperate, you begin to compromise values and beliefs you previously held dearly. Check out ‘6 Reasons Why Virginity is STILL Wonderful’ and ‘7 Tips to Win at Sexual Purity‘.

You do things that you never thought you’d do prior to meeting him. You begin to lose yourself and behave foolishly. I remember that I was with a male friend, who I found to be rather attractive, and his shoelace became untied. Do you know what I offered to do?!? I am ashamed to admit it but I bent down and offered to tie them …in the middle of a shopping plaza! What in the world was I thinking? Nothing was wrong with his own two hands. When you’re desperate, you don’t act in your right mind and then you behave in a manner that your more sensible self would never do. That top attraction killer is clouding your judgement.

Questions to consider:

• Are you too eager to please a man that you end up doing things that are against your better judgement?
• Do you wait ‘hand and foot’ on your boyfriend?
• Have you compromised your once-held values on sexual purity?
• Are you pursuing someone else’s boyfriend, fiancé or husband?

3) You change who you are.

You morph into a different person to please a man who has caught your attention. Unknowingly, you become the woman that you think he wants. You’re not into sports and suddenly, you become the biggest sports fan. You pretend that sports has always been your favorite hobby. His favorite foods are now your favorites. You dislike classical music, but now you have a ‘Classical’ music playlist that only gets playtime when he’s in your presence. You dress only in the way that you think he likes.

Furthermore, you always agree with him, even if your personal views are different from his. In essence, you’ve lost your identity. It’s exhilarating to meet someone who has similar interests, but no man wants to marry a female-version of himself. That’s way too boring. Besides, if you don’t like and value yourself, why should anyone else enjoy being with you?

Questions to consider:

• Do you hide the real you when you’re with someone?
• Do you change your entire appearance to please a man?
• Are you always agreeing with the man in whom you’re interested?
• Do you change who you are to be with a guy?
• Have you begun to wear revealing clothing so that men will see your sexiness?
• Do you send him suggestive/nude photos of yourself?
• Are you afraid to disagree with someone that you like?
• Do you enjoy your own company?

4) You don’t have a life.

If you are constantly available to a guy, it means that you have no life apart from him. When he messages you, you respond with the speed of lightning. When he calls you, you’re always available to chat. Whenever he asks to go out with you ‘today for tomorrow’, you always have time. Ladies, you’re setting up yourself for being taken for granted. No one will adore a woman who has no life of her own or whose whole life is centered around him (unless he’s a controlling insecure man). Read ‘6 Guys to Resist’.

Questions to consider:

Do you …

• Message the new guy in your life too frequently?
• Constantly check your phone to see if he has messaged you?
• Try to never miss a phone call from him?
• Change your plans whenever he calls last-minute to go out with you?
• Convince yourself that you’re in a relationship with a man who has not clearly declared his intentions?

I went to a Christian concert and I met a guy. Without a doubt, I wasn’t romantically interested in him, but I didn’t mind being his friend. I checked his profile on Facebook and I noticed that we had about 15 mutual friends comprising persons who I trust. Therefore, I thought it was safe to give him my phone number. Within 2 hours (or less) after the concert, the guy called me 4 times! What madness! I was annoyed to say the least. Desperation in both sexes is repulsive. Undoubtedly, it is a top attraction killer.

5) You are overly obsessed with getting married.

Marriage can become an idol for single women. Most of us begin dreaming about our wedding and marriage from a young age. A friend’s teenage daughter already has several Pinterest boards dedicated to her wedding. When these dreams are not realized, we can become desperate. Does your happiness depend on your relationship status? At times, it is natural to feel frustrated and disappointed about your unmet desire, but your desire for marriage should not dominate your entire life and emotions. Check out ‘5 Compelling Reasons Why Singleness is Beautiful’ and ‘Single and Disappointed-5 Helpful Tips to Deal With it‘.

“Anything I put before my God is an idol.
Anything I want with all my heart is an idol.
Anything I can’t stop thinking of is an idol.
Anything that I give all my love is an idol.
We must not worship something that’s not even worth it.
Clear the stage and make some space for the one who deserves it.
Cause I can sing all I want to.
Yes I can sing all I want to
I can sing all I want to
And still get it wrong, worship is more than a song.”
Lyrics excerpt from the song ‘Clear the Stage’ by Ross King

Questions to consider:

• Has marriage become an idol in your life?
• If you never got married, would you be happy and content?
• If God never gave you the gift of a spouse, would you turn your back on Him and rebel?
• Has singleness led you to be disobedient to God?

In Exodus 20:3 (KJV), it is written, “You shall have no other gods before Me.” A man could never ever fully satisfy us. Only God can. As single Christian woman, you need to know that marriage is not the reason for your existence. Jesus is.

I’m very familiar with the torturous feelings of desperation. At times, your emotions can be so intense that you need more than will power to act wisely with a guy that you like. In “Cure Desperation | 6 Tips to Become a Confident Attractive Woman”, I have shared with you what you can do get rid of this monster of desperation that is your top attraction killer.

What is your story? Have you ever felt so desperate that you lost all sense of reason? What are other clues that a woman (or man) is desperate for a relationship? I would love to hear your views. Comment below and subscribe to get my weekly email tips to help strengthen your relationship with God and others in your life. I love interacting with my subscribers. As an added bonus, when you subscribe, you receive your free ‘Know Yourself’ questionnaire. I look forward to continuing the conversation via email.

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Are you single and disappointed?

You’ve been faithful to God and you’ve sought to make Him the top priority in your life.  Yet, another year has come and you’re still unmarried.

You look at other single Christian women who have ‘gotten through’, and you think that something must be wrong with you. Why is God not hearing and giving you what you desire? Doesn’t your faithfulness count for something?

Compromise? No way!

Regardless, you’re the kind of woman who will not compromise your biblical values …even to get married. You’re not going to engage in premarital sex just to get a man by your side. Furthermore, being with a non-Christian is an absolute no-no.

Furthermore, being with a married man (even if he’s planning to get a divorce) is out of the question. If those were the only options to get married, you’ve made up your mind that loving God and being obedient to Him would still take priority over being married.

But even so, your obedience to God seems to be getting you nowhere.   You’re disappointed and perhaps even angry with God. The struggle is real.

These are genuine feelings among countless single Christian females, especially among those who are older and have never been married.  There are always exceptions, but most single women have an inborn desire to have a family.

This unfulfilled natural longing can lead to feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, anger and even depression.  

My own struggles with being single and disappointed.

I can relate very well to your convictions and struggles. In the midst of enjoying my season of singleness, I also vividly remember my own struggles of disappointment and crying out to God to fill this desire to be married.

It was honestly rough at times. However, God always gave the grace during those periods and gave me wisdom to successfully handle my unmet longings.

Here are 5 helpful tips to help you to deal with being single and disappointed.

1. Don’t deny it.

You are disappointed and there’s no need to deny it. ‘Call a spade a spade.’ God already knows your heart so there’s no need to pretend.

In most therapies, the first step is always facing the truth about yourself. As such, it’ll be good to share your feelings with trusted friends whether they are single or married.

If your friends will make fun of you, then you’ll need some new friends! Now, I’m not recommending an ongoing pity-party or ‘men-are-no-good’ bashing party.

Remember, this is about you at the moment and it is healthy to face your issue in order to deal with it. You do not have to remain single and disappointed.

2. Cry out to God.

Be vulnerable with God, not in a disrespectful way, but let him know how you feel about the situation. Prayer is the simple act of communicating with God. Allow God to meet you in the deepest place of your heart and soul.

So, you can do this by writing, speaking or singing to God.

A. Communicating with God through writing .

While I was single, I wrote to God in my journals … expressing all my hurts, regrets, frustrations and disappointments. It felt incredibly freeing to let it all out. Therefore, I would recommend that you begin journaling as soon as possible.

Read the article ‘10 Easy Steps to Start Journaling Today’. It’ll help you to detox your emotions and to gain some clarity. You can get your FREE journal printable and join my 21-day journal challenge to get help to begin this life-changing habit.

B. Communicating with God through talking.

You don’t need a special place or even a special time. Right now, you can talk to God. Whenever you feel like you’re drowning in sadness, lift your heart to Him and cry out to Him. If you need to cry, then cry. If you need to bawl, then bawl.

‘Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.’ (1 Peter 5:7)

C. Communicating with God through singing.

Singing your heart out can work miracles when you’re feeling depressed about your singleness. One of my favorite songs when I felt that my heart was breaking was ‘Enough’ by Chris Tomlin and Louie Giglio. Here are the lyrics:

“All of you is more than enough for all of me
For every thirst and every need
You satisfy me with Your love
And all I have in You is more than enough

You are my supply
My breath of life
And still more awesome than I know
You are my reward
worth living for
And still more awesome than I know

All of you is more than enough for all of me
For every thirst and every need
You satisfy me with Your love
And all I have in You is more than enough

You’re my sacrifice
Of greatest price
And still more awesome than I know
You’re my coming King
You are everything
And still more awesome than I know

More than all I want
More than all I need
You are more than enough for me
More than all I know
More than all I can say
You are more than enough for me.”

What songs have encouraged you when you felt single and disappointed?

3. Be a part of a healthy community.

We all need loving relationships. You may not have a husband, but having deep close friendships will fill your heart with love. For me, my friends were a tremendous support.

Therefore, you may want to be a part of a community that seeks to follow God and hold true to His values. If there are other single Christian women in your sphere, intentionally meet to encourage and to be your sister’s keep.

Be intentional to have a great time together. Don’t spend all your time talking about how sad and unfulfilled you are. Undoubtedly, there’s a lot more to this life than being married.

4. Build your confidence.

Confidence is attractive to men, job recruiters, coworkers, customers, etc. You need to feel good about yourself deep down in your bones. At any rate, your significance is not tied to your marital status.

I had one phase when I felt so desperate and needy. It was not pretty.  To put an end to that, I had to rewire my brain and build up my self-confidence.

Maybe you can do a makeover. Wear colors that make you look alive. Perhaps, even add a few new pieces to your wardrobe. Get a new hairstyle. In short, take some time for yourself and do things that would make you feel beautiful.

5. Guard your heart.

One of the best things to deal with being single and disappointed is to guard your heart. This means being intentionally in the following areas:

A. Your entertainment.

Have you ever finished watching a romantic movie at night and then as you enter dreamland, you somehow become the heroine in the movie?

After I intentionally stopped watching romantic movies for a prolonged period of time, my fantasies stopped and my intense longing for romance decreased significantly.

I became a lot happier being single. The way you think is a consequence of what you dwell on.

What shows, books, movies or music are driving your discontentment? I don’t think we realize just how much entertainment affects our entire being. Are you willing to reduce your fantasy stimuli, especially romantic movies/chick flicks?

Removing the triggers will lesson your feelings of being single and disappointed.

B. Your friends and family.

Which persons around you are influencing negative emotions about being unmarried?  I would suggest a change in ‘diet’ from them as well (if possible).  

You need to actively reduce or cut off negative stimuli or otherwise, your phase of being single and disappointed will last too long. If the negativity comes from persons with whom you live, let them know that what they are saying to you is not helpful.  

Instead, consciously seek to be around persons who are positive and who would help you to have a balanced biblical perspective on your singleness. Check out “5 Compelling Reasons Why Singleness is Beautiful.” 

Proverbs 4:23 wisely advised, ‘Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.’

Related articles:

5 Compelling Reasons Why Singleness is Beautiful 

10 Fun Ideas to Kill Boredom

Summary

These are some actions that I have implemented to help me to deal with the disappointment of being single for longer than I wanted. Whether you remain single for the rest of your life or get married, you want to be joyful.

Therefore, it is very important that you take responsibility for only what you can do. Making some of these changes will not be easy, but I hope, they would make the world of difference in lessening the things that fuel your disappointment.  

Instead of being single and disappointed, you’ll be single and having a time of your life!

What other tips would you recommend?  Which songs have inspired you? Comment below because I would love to hear what has or is helping you to navigate this season.

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Recommended Books:

‘Singled Out for Him’ by Nancy Leigh De Moss

The Path of Loneliness: Finding Your Way Through the Wilderness to God’ by Elisabeth Elliot

‘Did I Kiss Marriage Goodbye: Trusting God with a Hope Deferred’ by Carolyn McCulley

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