Success Stories 

John Maxwell read leadership books for one hour daily for five years with the aim of becoming a leadership expert. He has achieved that goal.

Warren Buffet, one of the most successful investors of the world, reads 500 pages every day. The Buffet formula is “going to bed smarter than when you woke up.” 

Serena Williams trains four hours a day.

In the book “The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America’s Wealthy by Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko, their research has found that a surprising number of millionaires are among the middle class and blue-collar workers, and not among the wealthy or persons having affluent professions. These financially disciplined people live below their means and choose to regularly save and invest little by little over a lifetime.

“Successful people form habits that feed their success, instead of habits that feed their failure.” – Jeff Olson in his book “The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success”

Simply put, self-discipline is the act of doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done regardless of your feelings at the time. In essence, it requires self-control which thankfully, is available for all true Christians. 

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. – 2 Timothy 1:7 

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23

Success in key areas 

As Christians, we want to achieve success in key areas in our relationships (especially with God), our health, our finances, and our personal development. We want overall success and not one-sided success. What’s the sense of becoming the wealthiest woman on earth at the expense of your relationship with God? The grave would only be able to hold your body and a few small items.

Habits are the wings on which self-discipline flies. They go hand in hand. The habits that you form will either advance your life goals or sabotage them. It doesn’t matter how much you pray about your life plans; if you’re one of the best in the field; or if you’ve gotten prophecies about your future greatness. If you don’t become a disciplined person, you will fall short of your dreams and never reach your full potential.

It took me many years to finally grow in self-discipline. I’m not where I’d like to be (still to overcome my bad habit of not eating on time!), but I’m certainly better than where I was. When I was a teenager, I failed at getting a scholarship because I had poor study habits. However, in my current degree, I have earned a high grade point average because I have grown! Yay!

Some other good habits that I’ve developed through the years:

• Memorizing Scripture.
• Exercising 3-5 times weekly.
• Cooking and eating healthily.
• Saving and investing for my retirement.
• Saving an emergency fund.
• Drinking 6-8 glasses of water daily.
• Regularly reading good self-development books.
• Daily journaling.

Related article: “Doing This Changed My Life”

I’ve come a long way. If I can do it, you can too. Here are some tips to help you grow in the one thing that all successful people have in common (self-discipline):

1) Determine the goals and the sacrifice needed.

“No pain, no gain.” Every good habit will require that you give up something else…a bad or unproductive habit. Saving money will require that you spend less. Exercising will require that you give up some sleep time or entertainment time. Reading a good book will require that you don’t watch the series that you love. Eating healthily will require that you don’t bake or buy food from which you need to stay away. 

You cannot do everything in 24 hours. So we must prioritize and make sacrifices. We have to count the cost.

Suggested template (Columns 1-4):

C1: Write down your goals in the area(s) in which you want growth.

C2: State the habits that you need to implement in order to achieve those goals. 

C4: Jot down all your bad or unproductive habits that will prevent you from reaching your goals. (Complete C4 before C3).

C3: Note the gap and record the sacrifices that you’re willing to make to reach your goals.

2) Be aware of your habits.

You need to prayerfully discern if your current habits are helping you or distracting you.

Good, productive habits – habits that support growth in every area of your life.

Bad habits – habits that destroy or weaken your health, relationships, finances, etc.

Unproductive habits – habits that are not evil but they can waste a lot of your time if not managed carefully. Your time is your most precious resource. Once TIME is wasted, it’s gone FOREVER!

3) Start with an easy habit.

In order to become a more disciplined woman, you need to choose a habit that is relatively easy to accomplish. One of my earliest habits as a teenager was making up my bed everyday. Even if I were to sit on it five minutes later, it was still worth keeping the habit. You might think that it was a waste of time because you’re going to sleep on it again in the night. 

However, the very act sets the tone of your day. It wakes you up and prepares your mind to be in a frame of productivity. You need to remember your end goal which is to become a more disciplined person so that you can succeed at life. Good habits propels you to form more good habits until you become an overall disciplined person. You develop self-trust. But you have to be intentional!

Suggested ‘easy’ habits to start:

• Start making up your bed daily.
• If you’d like to begin removing sugar from your tea, every day, add a little less sugar to your tea until you drink it with none. That’s what I did!
• For water consumption, I gradually replaced my sugary drinks with water until I began to love water.

Our bodies can be trained!

4) Set a time and establish a system. 

It sounds good to say that you will begin exercising regularly. In order to make this a reality, you must go a step further. You’ll be more successful in keeping a habit if you set a schedule. Personally, I prefer to do most of habits every day or Mondays to Fridays (when there’s a natural break in routine). Otherwise, I tend to forget. When you have a regular system, it’ll eventually become like second nature to you. 

Here’s an example with an exercise habit:

• Which days would you like to exercise?
• For how long are you going to exercise?
• With which exercise routine will you begin? 
• Are you going to use an app…which app? Are you going to subscribe to a YouTube exercise channel? Which channel? Are you going to join the gym? Which gym? Are you going to walk with a friend? Which friend and when are you going to ask them to accompany you?
• When will you begin? (Date and time of day)

Say that you want to start an emergency fund…here are the questions that you need to answer:

• What is your goal? Is it an amount equivalent to six months’ living expenses?
• Which expenses are you going to cut or reduce until you reach your goal?
• Where are you going to store this money?
• Under what conditions will you withdraw and spend it?
• Will you set up an automatic deduction from one account to an account to hold your emergency funds? When are you going to do it?

5) Track your progress.

You need to know how you’re doing. If you’re doing well, you celebrate! If you’re doing poorly, you may need to reassess the situation and take corrective action. When I started journaling, I began in the morning. But I found that I was always rushing to get ready and my mind could not sufficiently focus on writing a journal entry. Therefore, I tweaked the plan and now I journal before I go to bed when I’m in a relaxed reflective mood. It has worked wonders!

Related article: 10 Easy Tips to Start Journaling Today

When I set my goal to read twenty-four books a year, I used the note app on my phone to record every book that I read. It helped me to track my progress. When I began to study again, that habit ‘went out the door’ because I had to focus on reading textbooks and I had less time for leisure reading. When life changes, we need to be flexible, but try not to throw out the habit altogether unless it is no longer helpful.

6) Don’t give up.

A new year begins and we set new year’s resolutions. I’ve heard people decrying New Year’s resolutions, but I’m not one of them. A new season of life, whether it is a new year, a new job, a new week, or even a new day, is always a good time to make changes in our lives. New represents fresh beginnings for me. The problem is not with the resolutions, but the person making the resolution. If we are undisciplined, we will never keep our resolutions regardless of the time of year we make them. 

Therefore, when you form a habit and you break it, just start again. It is useless to beat up yourself and quit altogether. Simply come to terms that you have ‘failed’ in that instance but get back on that schedule. Refuse to stay down and feel sorry for yourself. Pick yourself up and start again and again until the habit develops. Remember, you have goals to accomplish! 

7) Make it manageable.

Some habits require that you break it up into bite-sized pieces. Let’s say that you don’t like reading, but you want to read more. Instead of sitting down to read a large portion of the book, it might be worth your while to commit to reading 5-10 pages per day. If you wait until you’re in the mood, a habit of reading will not be formed. 

8) Don’t give into your moods.

I think this is the hardest point. Many of us allow our feelings and moods to run our lives. For years, we have allowed our emotions to inform our habits and we are weakened in regards to making prudent decisions. We are at the mercy of our emotions. 

If you don’t feel like drinking water, simply grab that glass, open your mouth and swallow that water. It’s quite easy to do and it’s also quite easy NOT to do. Do not give into your emotions. You rule it and not the other way around. The good news is that when you begin to form good habits, even your moods will come under subjection. Your mind and emotions become more disciplined.

9) Add another worthy habit.

When your small starting habits become set, it’s time to add more challenging ones. You have created some level of self-trust, so you can give yourself a slightly bigger challenge. For example, if your first intentional habit was making up your bed every day and you have been successful for the last 21 days, a slightly bigger habit might be drinking six glasses of water daily. It’s your life so you decide which habit to adopt. 

You can also try habit stacking by adding on another habit after the first habit.

Here an example of habit stacking in my morning routine on a weekday as single woman (H=Habit):

H1: Wake-up 

H2: Make up bed

H3: Drink 2 (8-ounce) glasses of water

H4: Spend time talking with God

H5: Memorize Scripture 

H6: Exercise 

H7: Eat Breakfast (I made my oats mixture in bulk over the weekend)

H8: Shower and get ready for work 

10) Involve a friend.

Most people find this to be helpful in forming habits. You can ask a friend to join you or hold you accountable. If you both want to memorize scripture, at the end of the week, you can recite scripture to each other. You can go walking with a friend if you both have this goal.

Summary 

Ladies, a good habit might take some effort to begin, but after a while, it may actually turn out to be fun. When I visited my friend, I observed my friend’s posture and her flat stomach. I enquired and she told me that she had been doing Pilates. Immediately, I purchased my own Pilates videos with the intention of beginning my workout. I pressed ‘play’ and it looked so easy! Looks are deceiving. It was downright hard. After five minutes, I gave up because I just couldn’t do the exercises. I gave it a break for about two months. Then, I returned to it and I subsequently enjoyed several years of Pilates.

My ten tips for developing self-discipline by cultivating good habits are determine your goals and the cost; be aware of your habits; start easy; set a time and establish a system; track your progress; don’t give up; break it up into manageable pieces; don’t give into your moods; add more habits; and involve a friend. These pointers have helped me and I hope that they benefit you as well.

Questions to consider:

• What are your goals?
• Do you have some steps or habits you need to start today to move closer to your goals, whether relationships, health, finances or personal development?
• What are your current habits that have you aided your success in relationships, health, finances, or personal development?

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Love,

Kimberly 

Recommended resources:

“The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success” by Jeff Olson

“The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R. Covey

“The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America’s Wealthy” by Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko

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What should you do? You don’t have to be bored to death with your life. In fact, the single years can be the most fun and exciting time of your life filled with purpose and adventure.

However, we need to be careful what kind of fun we have. God has given us free choice, but some choices will be unprofitable in the long run. They will leave you with a “whole heap” of headaches (literal and figurative).  

“Variety is the spice of life” (An old adage)

Here are 10 fun ideas to kill boredom:

1) Socializing.

My number one suggestion is hanging out with friends and/or family.  In Trinidad & Tobago, it is fondly referred to as ‘liming’… eating, talking, and laughing.  It might be good to gather a few single friends and form a hang-out ‘crew’.  There are so many options, but here are a few to consider:

Some ideas:

• Plan a picnic;
• Have a potluck feast where everyone brings a dish;
• Go to a restaurant (no cooking required).
• Visit friends.  
• Go to the movies, show, theatre, theme park, etc.
• Try a fun sport together;
• Organise a monthly games night (and while you’re at it, invite some single Christian guys! *smile*).
  

For example, my housemates and I started having themed “Games Nite” once per month. It became quite popular as a Friday night social event and people began attending from all over the country!

Choose people who you enjoy. It should be a time of enjoyment and not punishment:). Socializing can surely kill boredom.

2) Reading or listening to books.

For some of you, this might not sound like fun, but give it a try.  This is my personal favorite hobby. Are there books that you’ve been ‘dying’ to read but it just has not happening?  You can use your free time to just sit back, get your favorite beverage and read or listen to a book.  Here are a few suggested books:

Fiction

• “Blessed Child“ by Bill Bright and Ted Dekker
• “Chronicles of Narnia” (series) by C.S. Lewis
• “Pride and Prejudice” by Jane Austin
• “To Kill a Mockingbird” by Harper Lee

Biographies or Autobiographies

• ”Death of a Guru: A Remarkable True Story of One Man’s Search For Truth” by Rabí R. Maharaj
• “The Hiding Place” by Corrie Ten Boom
• ”Harriet Tubman: The Moses of Her People” by Sarah H. Bradford, Jim Hodges, et. al.
• ”William Tyndale”

Relationship with God

• The Holy Bible
• The Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence
• The Incomparable Christ by J. Oswald Sanders
• More Than a Carpenter by Josh McDowell

Inspirational

• Strong Women, Soft Hearts by Paula Rhinehart
• Brokenness, Surrender and Holiness by Nancy Leigh DeMoss
• Did I Kiss Marriage Goodbye by Carolyn McCulley
• The Disciplines of the Beautiful Woman by Anne Ortlund

Relationship with men

• Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
• 10 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Men by Sabrina Alexis and Eric Charles
• Finding the Love of Your Life by Neil Clark Warren
• Building a Relationship That Lasts by Dick Purnell

Growth and Wholeness

• Changes that Heal by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
• Ordering Your Private World by Gordon MacDonald
• Victory Over the Darkness by Neil Anderson
• Margins by Richard Swenson

Sex-related

• The Bare Facts: 39 Questions Your Parents Hope You Never Ask About Sex by Josh McDowell
• Sex and the Soul of a Woman by Paula Rhinehart
• The Purity Principle by Randy Alcorn
• Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot

Money-related

• Five Wealth Secrets by Craig Hill
• The Richest Man in Babylon by George S. Clason
• The Treasure Principle by Randy Alcorn
• Living Large: How to Live Well Even on a Little by J. Raymond Albrektson

Leadership

• Leadership Coaching by Tony Stoltzfus
• The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey
• The Speed of Trust by Stephen M.R. Covey
• The Performance Factor: Unlocking the Secrets of Teamwork by MacMillan

Passing your time with a good book will surely help to kill boredom.

3) A Weekend Get-Away.

This sounds like paradise!  You don’t necessarily have to leave the country, but try to leave your home. At least once a year, it’s healthy to set aside time to get away from all the busyness of life.  

You can use it to invest in your relationship with God and/or to de-stress. Also, you can also try a ‘Silence & Solitude’ retreat and unplug from all distractions.  If you’re like me and you don’t feel comfortable going to a strange place by yourself, then take along a friend or relative who has the same agenda of ‘getting away’.  

4) Enjoy nature.

How about taking a trip to the mountains or the beach or a river or a nature reserve?  Hike, bike or walk and enjoy God’s creation. Or just stay at home and enjoy what you have around you. I love to sit in our porch, look at the trees, listen to the birds, and just think.  It’s very refreshing!

5) Traveling.

I have travelled to over thirty countries within the last nine years and it has been fabulous! Nine out of ten times, I was alone.

You can travel to visit family or friends or simply go site seeing on your own. Solo travel seems to be becoming more popular and companies are beginning to offer packages to meet the needs of the growing number of singles traveling alone.

6) Get in touch with your creative side.

You can rediscover that childhood creative streak that has been buried for some years.  I used to love doing crafts when I was younger.  Maybe this year, I will find a craft project to re-energize that creative part of me.  What about you? Are there any activities that you haven’t done in a while that gives you life?

Some suggestions:

• Craft Project
• Baking
• Painting
• Writing a song
• Coloring
• Playing a musical instrument

7) Volunteer.

One thing that is always in short supply is a good labourer. The world is ripe with opportunities to serve children, the elderly, the homeless, or refugees.  Without a doubt, you have gifts that you can use to bless someone.

The need to alleviate human suffering is great globally. Gather a few friends and have an outreach or join someone else who is actively involved in bringing love, hope and cheer. You’ll definitely kill every ounce of boredom in your life!

8) Create a bucket list.

What are some things that you’d absolutely love to do before you leave this earth?  Would you like to travel the world, help with the refugee crisis or go skydiving?

While you’re single, this is the time to try to accomplish those things.  One of my desires was to visit Australia and I did that a few years ago. It was worth the longgggggg flights.

9) Babysit.

There is never a dull moment with children in your life. Kill boredom instantly! Invite your nephews and nieces (biological or not) to your home for a day or two.  Their parents might be super grateful for the help.

You can give the children a time of their lives that they will remember for years to come.  “Susan” was babysitting my friends’ two children.  I was passing by and to my surprise, she made hot chocolate, baked chicken wings, pineapple chow, pizza and some other goodies.  

Furthermore, a tent was erected in the living room furnished with a sleeping bag, pillows, a plant (haha) and a projector for watching Netflix.  They also had a list of fun activities for the night. I was blown away. “Susan” was having just as much fun as the children! Lol

Here are some ideas for entertaining children:

• Play board games.
• Read books to them.
• Watch a movie together.
• Bake or cook with them.
• Take them to a park or zoo.

10) Learn a new skill or begin a new hobby.

There are countless online courses now.  Check out Youtube, Udemy, Teachable, SkillsShare or LinkedIn to name a few to learn a new skill.  There might also be free or cheap courses offered in your country.

Do some research and you never know what you might discover.  Join an art class, dance lessons, cooking course or photography course. You’ll kill boredom and you never know who you might meet in the process! Hmmmm:)

Related articles:

5 Compelling Reasons Why Singleness is Beautiful 

5 Crazy Things People Say to Single Women

10 Fantastic Ideas When You Are Stuck At Home

Summary

I’m sure you can come up with other ideas yourself.  The key to enjoying your singleness to the max is to be intentional. What are some activities that have helped you to enjoy this season?  Please comment below. Your ideas just might interest someone else.

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Kimberly Garth

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