Imagine having a Christ-honouring relationship with a guy who wants to grow old with you …

Here’s what that would look like …

• Avoiding the “creeps” and time-wasters
• Understanding the path of friendship, courtship and marriage
• How to become friends with a guy without being the main pursuer
• How to get a man to open up to you
• What to do when you have never dated before or haven’t dated in a long time
• What causes a man to become disinterested in you 
• What you can do to prevent his love from growing cold
• How to be friendly, but not get stuck in the “friend zone”
• How to get a man to notice you without appearing needy or desperate
• How do you know if he’s the right one for you (compatibility)
• How to not get too close too soon
• How to manage your shyness/introversion
• Spotting and working on your relationship-blocking blind spots
• Improving your relationship skills with men
• Knowing how to navigate a romantic relationship when a child/children are involved
• How to deal with age differences

If you plan on marrying a man (and a good one at that), you need to know:-

• What he finds attractive in a woman
• What makes him open up to a woman (more on that soon)
• What turns men off
• What keeps a man interested
• What makes him want to marry a woman

Why should you listen to me?

I probably have a lot in common with most of you. I’m an educated, professional woman who is considered to be fairly attractive. I’ve had one major failed relationship (I was actually engaged). After that relationship, my confidence took a nosedive when it came to relationships with men.

Questions like these plagued me:

“Do I have what it takes to keep a man interested in me?” 

“Would a man want to be with me long enough to make it to a wedding day?” 

“Suppose my next relationship fails like my first one.”

To make matters worse, for thirteen years, men were attracted to me, but they never really pursued me. I even had a few crushes on men along the way. Year after year, my relationship status remained the same … single without a boyfriend or fiancé.

As the years progressed, I became even more shy with men. I was overwhelmed with thoughts like, “Suppose he sees I’m interested in him and he doesn’t feel the same way about me.” and

“I don’t want to give him the impression that I like him.”

I was trying to protect my heart.

When I realised that I needed to change

I attended a conference in Panama and there was one guy who was trying very hard to befriend me. But I was cold toward him. I wanted to be comfortable and normal toward him, but I just couldn’t relax. I couldn’t break free from this self-imprisonment.

I returned to my country knowing that I HAD TO CHANGE! 

When my love life turned around …

Through my research about men, I was gaining greater understanding of myself and of men. I needed to work on my self-confidence and my interactions with men.

I made three main changes.

ONE – I became less self-absorbed and more friendly toward men who were interested in me. “So what if they felt I was interested in them?” My new focus was on making friends and being a blessing. That tweak caused me to relax and enjoy my friendship with any man.

TWO – I began to smile more as a way of life, especially to men who ‘tickled my fancy’. Wow! That was a big game changer for me.

THREE – I began to use my words to truly appreciate and compliment men. But it was more than words. It was a heart change as a result of understanding how important it is for a man to be admired and respected.

I kid you not. Within the space of 1 year, I had two godly men wanting to spend the rest of their earthly lives with me. 

Is it too late for you?

Not at all! I married “late” in life.

I personally know single women with children who married good men.

I also have met women who have married very late in life and are enjoying life with their spouses.

I know women who married young and have healthy happy marriages.

I am passionate about this because I believe that marriage is God-ordained and it has a very powerful purpose of representing Christ and the Church. A healthy Christian marriage is a witness to the world.

I also believe that HOPE is essential in life.  So if you’re a single woman and you desire to be married someday, don’t lose hope. Don’t give up. Of course, marriage should not be an idol, but it is a worthy gift to trust God for.

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