“Ally” is in her mid-thirties. While she is trusting God for a fabulous husband, she feels like she can’t just wait around and twiddle her thumbs. What can “Ally” do while she is waiting to be married?
“Ally” is right. There so much more to life than getting married. We place so much emphasis on getting married that we forget that marriage is only for here and now. Did you know that there will be no marriage in Heaven except the ultimate marriage between Christ and His church?
“For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.” Matthew 22:30
So, while your desire to be married is normal and marriage is a worthwhile pursuit, you should not let it stifle your ability to thrive as a single woman. As a matter of fact, you’ll be more attractive to a godly man, if you live a purposeful life as a single woman.
Here are 4 tips to consider while you wait to be married:-
1) Develop and enjoy your intimacy with Jesus.
You do not know the future. As such, you simply do not know when you will be married. And that’s okay! As a woman who has been a single adult for a lot more years than I’ve been a wife, I can safely say that your relationship with Jesus is your foundation for a fulfilling life and a good marriage. Without this solid foundation, you will more than likely be crushed by life’s pressures. Believe me when I say that each marriage will have its own share of “troubles” and you will not be exempted.
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So what do you do? My advise to you is to prepare yourself by having a growing and intimate relationship with Jesus, your Saviour.
While you are single …
- Know who God is for yourself. The main way of doing this is to spend time in His Word, the Bible.
- Embrace your identity in Christ. Your identity goes beyond your marital status. When you know who you are in Christ (increasingly), your confidence will grow and you will experience freedom in Christ as time goes on.
- Depend on Jesus and not make your flesh central to your identity. For instance, you will have a much better success in meeting a godly man by praying continually for him, rather than dressing immodestly.
- Learn to depend on the Lord for every aspect of your life. Give your burdens to Jesus because He is the only One who can save you from your troubles, without giving you more troubles!
- Depend upon God’s grace to carry you and give you the power to resist temptation.
2) Depend on the Holy Spirit.
When I was a younger Christian, I learnt about being filled with the Holy Spirit to live a life controlled and empowered by the Holy Spirit. It is simple concept, but it helped me to experience victory over sin. When you try to live this Christian life in your own strength, you are destined to fail.
Trust God to experience His supernatural power to break the strongholds in your life. Too often, the Word of God can become an intellectual exercise and we forget “the immeasurable greatness of his power toward us who believe.” (Ephesians 1:19)
3) Build your relationships within your family and Christian community.
No Christian can live a victorious Christian life without the involvement of other believers. My advice to you is to seek to be an active participant in a loving Bible-believing Christian community to meet your emotional and social needs for love and acceptance.
Additionally, you need at least two safe Christian friends (or family members) in whom you can confide; walk this journey with you; and partner with you in prayer. You also need to give them permission to correct you when you’re wrong because we ALL have blind spots!
4) Guard your heart and mind.
My sister, as a single woman, be careful what you allow into your mind and what you dwell on through entertainment, literature, influencers, friendships and the like. What you consume will either build you up or derail you from following Jesus. Plus, your beliefs can enhance your future marriage or destroy it.
My suggestion is to constantly renew your mind with the Word of God. Then, you can evaluate all that you consume with the Word of God being your measuring tape.
Summary
Your season of singleness is a time or self-discovery and growth. Please don’t waste it because having the right foundation will serve you well throughout life. As a godly woman, your strength and identity comes from God and nothing/no one else.
To recap,
Here are 4 tips to consider while you wait to be married:-
- Develop and enjoy your intimacy with Jesus.
- Depend on the Holy Spirit.
- Build your relationships within your family and Christian community.
- Guard your heart and mind.
Thanks for stopping by!
#madeforlove
With love & laughter,
Kimberly Garth
Other Helpful Resources:
Single and Disappointed-5 Helpful Tips to Deal With it
9 Powerful Prayers Every Single Woman Should Pray
Suppose You Never Get Married … 10 Ways to Deal With It
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The Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence
Let Me Be a Woman by Elisabeth Elliot
Lies Young Women Believe: And the Truth that Sets Them Free by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth & Dannah Gresh
