What is the big deal about saving sex for marriage? If God is a god of love, wouldn’t he want me to express love to my boyfriend by having sex with him? Nothing could be further from the truth. Since God is love, the most loving decision, regarding sex, is to save sex for marriage.
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Here are 5 people you love when you save sex for marriage:
1) Love for your future husband.
According to a survey by the University of Chicago, it was found that “monogamous married couples register the highest levels of sexual satisfaction.” Did you hear that? When the oxytocin hormone is released during love-making, it allows the couple to cleave. However, the bond lessons with each new partner. Additionally, according to the survey, “those who are least satisfied (both physically and emotionally) are those couples who have had multiple partners.” You see… God is not against sex! He wants you to have the best sex possible!
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Another survey by the University of Maryland found that “women who save sex for marriage face a considerably lower risk of divorce than those who are sexually active prior to marriage.” Based on those facts, your virginity will be a wonderful gift for your husband on your wedding night.
Love your boyfriend too!
Additionally, your boyfriend might be someone else’s future husband. As such, it is extremely loving to also help him to save sex for marriage. Ladies, love is acting in the best interest of the other person.
“Let no one seek his own, but each one the other’s well-being.” 1 Corinthians 10:24
2) Love for the woman that your boyfriend may eventually marry.
I sincerely thought that I was going to marry my first boyfriend, who I was also engaged to, but it didn’t happen. Until you say ‘I do’, you really cannot know for certain that your boyfriend will be your husband. If you engage in sexual activity as a single woman, you’re not being loving to the woman that your boyfriend might eventually marry. Unless he gets amnesia, he will remember and compare the sexual experiences he had with you!
“Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:4
3) Save sex for marriage to show love for yourself.
Some people trivialize sex like if your heart, soul and mind is disconnected from your body. You’re not a robot! Having sex with a man involves your entire being. In a marriage, regular sex is a wise investment that will enrich your marriage. Outside of marriage, giving yourself to a man sexually will make you a pauper … emotionally and spiritually. You are too valuable to dispense of your virginity to a man who is ONLY your boyfriend or fiancé.
Even if you never marry, you’ll be very grateful that you restrained yourself. Once the sexual appetite is opened, it is very challenging to keep it closed.
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4) Love for God.
Saving sex for marriage shows that you love God. In John 14:15, He says, “if you love me, you will keep my commandments.” The entire Bible shows us God’s original intention regarding sex (that is, for marriage) and His boundaries are to protect the beauty and sacredness of sex.
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” 1 Corinthians 6: 18-20
5) Love for the single woman who sees you as her role model.
Younger Christian women are looking at your life. She might be your younger sister, cousin, friend, or a young woman in your church. It is very crushing for a young person to read one thing in the Bible and then see mature Christians around her do the exact opposite. Therefore, saving sex for marriage shows others that it is possible to be sexually pure with the help of the Holy Spirit.
“For you, brothers, were called to freedom; but do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh. Rather, serve one another in love.” Galatians 5:13
Have you had sex already or have been sexually abused?
Some single women reading this might feel crushed and hopeless because they have been raped, touched inappropriately or had willingly had sex in the past. The enemy of your soul has set a plan of attack against you to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10). However, Jesus entered your story to save you and to redeem your life.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” John 10:10
Don’t let the enemy use your past to keep you hidden and ashamed. Rather, allow God to use your story to propel you forward and to help others know that Jesus saves, heals and delivers. Undoubtedly, you are not less than anyone else because everyone sins.
“There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death.” Romans 8:1-2
Isn’t that terrific news!?!
While you cannot undo your past, Jesus is a loving Savior who is willing to restore you. You can have a new start and choose sexual purity from now on. If you’ve gone off track, don’t delay. Just get back in the right lane. Even if you were to sin sexually again, get back up and rely on the power of the Holy Spirit to sustain you.
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“Purity is a commitment to live according to God’s original design.” Josh Mc Dowell (The Bare Facts: 39 Questions Your Parents Hope You Never Ask About Sex)
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Summary
Sure, you can have sex with your boyfriend because you have free choice, but know that it is not loving… at all!
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
That my friends, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 is our measuring stick. How does pre-marital sex measure up against God’s standard of love?
So ladies, if you want to be loving to those five people, save sex for marriage. If you want to experience the best sex, wait for marriage. Please don’t listen to people who will encourage you to have sex before marriage. They either do not have the Holy Spirit in them or they are Christians who are not walking by the Spirit. Those people will lead you astray.
Which other people are impacted when we save sex for marriage? Please feel free to comment below! Thanks for stopping by!
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With love & laughter,
Kimberly Garth
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