Yesterday was Amy’s 40th birthday. When a significant birthday like the big “40” comes around, it is normal to do meaningful introspection. As Amy evaluates her life, she is saddened that she’s still unmarried. What could be the problem? Why is she not meeting any suitable single Christian men?
Could it be her current communities are limiting her to meeting single eligible bachelors? While she believes in trusting God to connect her with her future husband, she needs to think soberly about her situation.
Amy concludes that she will have to courageously come out of her comfort zone and seek to actively meet new people, especially single Christian men.
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Ladies, here are three facts:-
- Single Christian men have lives outside of the four walls of a church.
- There are still GOOD single Christian adult men available.
- While not all single Christian women will get married, it doesn’t not necessarily follow that you have to be one of them.
Do you need to meet more single Christian men?
- Here are 9 suggestions on how to meet new Christian guys:-
- 1) Get a new hobby or explore a new interest.
- 2) Join a community with persons who share that hobby or interest.
- 3) Become active in the community.
- 4) Have a recent and attractive photo of yourself for your profile.
- 5) If a respectable guy sends you a personal message, be kind and helpful.
- 6) Show up in person for community events or projects.
- 7) Use video when your community has online meetings.
- 8) Be pleasant and friendly, online and in person.
- 9) Represent Christ well!
Here are 9 suggestions on how to meet new Christian guys:-
1) Get a new hobby or explore a new interest.
There are thousands of hobbies under the sun! As the years progress, more will pop up because we, human beings, are simply creative like our Creator God.
Therefore, practically speaking, if you want to new guys, you may want to explore a new hobby or get involved in a project or become an active volunteer.
What interest or hobby would you like to explore next?
2) Join a community with persons who share that hobby or interest.
There’s a community for nearly every hobby/interest under the sun! Whatever you’re interested in, there’s a community for that … whether locally, regionally or internationally.
My experience …
Since the pandemic, my husband and I have been doing a bit of gardening. Now, I’m in 3 large WhatsApp groups which have connected me to over 2400 new people. A whole new world of people (and potential friends) have opened up for me. And I am certain that there are single eligible Christian bachelors who are into gardening. I’m just letting you know the possibility exists.
Communities where new Christian guys can be found:-
- Gardening or agriculture communities
- Sporting/Fitness communities
- Music communities
- “Protect The Environment” communities
- Missions communities
- Construction/DIY/Woodworking/Plumbing/etc. communities
- Animal Lovers communities
- Professional/Business communities
- Travel communities
- And many more!
if you’re like my former single self and you continue to surround yourself with mainly your single female friends, your family members, your married friends and your church community which is sadly lacking eligible bachelors, you will most likely remain single. Just telling you plainly!
3) Become active in the community.
In order to meet new guy to the point where you get to know one another, then your level of engagement in the community has to increase. You MUST become visible!
- Engage in the posts.
- Give advice relevant to the hobby/interest.
- Share your knowledge.
- Be teachable.
- Be an encourager.
- Be a cheerleader.
Before you know it, you will be making friends with other community members. I would advise making friends with the young, the old, other women, other men, etc. You never know who will be the link between you and your future husband!
4) Have a recent and attractive photo of yourself for your profile.
We live in an age where having a profile photo is the norm. Instead of leaving your profile photo “blank” or placing a photo of your fish 😂, why not make it a point of connection?
If your new community has an online arm, I am almost certain that single men, even Christian men, will take a look at your photo if your community engagement is winsome. They would be like, “I wonder what she looks like.” And if the new guy likes your photo, he will be paying extra attention to your posts and even look up your social media profiles to learn more about you.
5) If a respectable guy sends you a personal message, be kind and helpful.
Whether online or in person, if a new guy is interested in knowing you better, he will reach out to you in some form or fashion. He may reply to your comment or ask for your advice or offer his assistance.
If he’s respectful, respond kindly …even if you may not be interested in him. You just never know if your interest in him might grow or he will be talking about you to his best friend who might be just the type of man you’ve been praying about.
6) Show up in person for community events or projects.
Don’t restrict your community involvement to having an online presence! If there are in-person meet ups or projects, go! Look your absolute best, but ensure that you fit in. For instance, I wouldn’t dress in stiletto heels and my Sunday-best dress to help plant a community garden! 😂
7) Use video when your community has online meetings.
In-person meetings are still the best way to really get to know someone. However, online meetings can also be an important step toward connection.
Therefore, whenever you have the opportunity to attend online meetings where participants’ videos can be turned on, resist the urge to leave your video off!
Even if you’re online, you can still take a shower; spritz on a little perfume; style your hair, etc. If you feel good about yourself, you will come across as more attractive even through a screen.
Here are some other tips:-
- Have a pleasant smile.
- Resist frowning.
- Give constructive input if you are given the opportunity.
- Listen to the input of others.
- Be vocally supportive of others instead of being argumentative on every point.
- Be positive!
8) Be pleasant and friendly, online and in person.
Men respond VERY WELL to smiling, friendly women. Therefore, make it a point to smile with others until it becomes who you are. If you say you have the joy of the Lord, why not show it? Too many Christian single women are way too intense! Loosen up and be the type of woman that people like to be around.
Even if you have a doctorate and you’re the most intelligent person in the room, your demeanor matters if you want to be inviting to new guys. Disarm them with a winsome smile! It never fails!
9) Represent Christ well!
A sober-thinking level-headed mature Christian man will look beyond your appearance or your academic qualifications or your social status. He wants a Christian woman who is genuinely growing in her relationship with God which will undoubtedly be seen in her character.
You’re not perfect, but your inner being will gradually inform your outward character. So, while you’re single, make it your main priority to grow in your relationship with God. It is truly the best investment of your time.
Summary
Single Christian men are everywhere! You may have no options of single eligible Christian men in your current Christian community, but they are out there. However, you need to be intentional about meeting new people, especially new guys.
Thus, seek to make friends and represent Christ well in whatever community you may find yourself. My challenge to you is to join a new community within this year. If you’re at a loss, pray about it and ask the Lord to guide you.
Also, remember to keep your desire for marriage before God in prayer. Pray for your future husband regularly. Although you’re “widening the net”, it is still the Lord who will connect you with your future husband because He’s the Sovereign One who has your best interest at heart.
To recap,
Here are 9 suggestions on how to meet new guys:-
- Get a new hobby or explore a new interest.
- Join a community with persons who share that hobby/interest.
- Become active in the community.
- Have a recent and attractive photo of yourself for your profile.
- If a respectable guy sends you a personal message, be kind and helpful.
- Show up in person for community events or projects.
- Use video when your community has online meetings.
- Be pleasant and friendly, online and in person.
- Represent Christ well!
Thanks for stopping by!
#madeforlove
With love & laughter,
Kimberly Garth
Other Helpful Resources:
5 Ways Your Community Helps You Find Your Husband
5 Tips To Make Yourself Look Great Online
4 Essential Tips While You Wait to be Married
10 Practical Ways to Improve Your Chances of Meeting the One
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Recommended Books:
Choosing God’s Best: Wisdom for Lifelong Romance by Dr. Don Raunikar
Quest for Love: True Stories of Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot
