I sincerely want you to meet a great guy and have an awesome God-honouring marriage like I have. For that to take place, you need to understand men, and specifically single men.
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I’ve been around many men all my life. I have a father, a brother, male co-workers and because I have been ministering among college students for over twenty years, I have met quite a large number of men. Throughout the years, I’ve participated in many conversations and discussions where single men really share their hearts and in particular what turns them off and what keeps them interested in a woman. Plus, I’ve had my own experiences.
It took me quite a long time to have the knowledge about men that I have today. Although I’ve had quite a bit of disappointments with men, I am happily married today!
A question of special interest to single women is how to get a man to open up to you.
Here are 4 tips on how to get a man to open up emotionally to you:-
1) He needs to feel safe with you.
A single man, who is seriously interested in marriage, is on the lookout for a suitable spouse. He’s observing the single women around him. He’s looking at the way you communicate with others, first and foremost. If you’re a professional strong-minded woman, you have to work extra hard at this because he might have already formed preconceived notions that you’re a “hard’ woman.
Here are a few questions he is unconsciously asking himself as he evaluates you:
- Do you talk down to other people, especially men?
- Are you willing to submit to the leadership God has placed in your life?
- Do you usually think that you’re right?
- Do you always have to win an argument?
Tips on making him feel safe with you:-
1) Asking him about his opinions.
2) Valuing his input.
3) Not making fun of him.
4) If others are laughing at him, you should not join them.
5) Appreciating his contribution in the presence of others.
6) Not treating him like he’s ignorant or a child.
2) Be genuinely interested in him.
When you are having a conversation with him, he must know that you are listening or else he will close up. He will simply conclude that you’re not interested in hearing what he has to say. Try to give him your full attention. Secondly, you must learn to ask questions that will cause him to connect deeply with you. A question like, “What has been a highlight of your day?” should be helpful!
3) Build him up with your words.
Most men have deep insecurities. If he admires you for your strength, your character, your walk with the Lord and the like, he may feel like he’s not worthy of you. Furthermore, he will be less likely to open up and vulnerably share for fear of being judged or criticized by you. In order to counteract that, you need to wisely encourage him and highlight on his character and strengths. Focus less on magnifying yourself and more on “bigging” him up.
4) Do not belittle him when his weaknesses are exposed.
How you react when he fails or show his weaknesses will give him a good indication of your thoughts toward him. This will determine if he can trust you with his heart and how much he will open up to you. For this, you must choose the path of humility and remember that you have failed and will fail in the future. Be gracious to him. Watch what comes out of your mouth and your facial expressions. Trust the Lord to form humility in you. If he’s a good man, he will sincerely want to put this best foot forward, but he’s human.
CAN YOU AWAKEN A SINGLE MAN’S HEART FOR YOU?
Yes, you can! You might just need a little help along the way.
- It doesn’t matter if you’re a strong woman (like myself).
- It doesn’t matter your age.
- It doesn’t matter if you have children.
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Summary
An emotional connection forms when we can be vulnerable and transparent with one another. In order for a man to open up to you, he must feel that you’re a safe woman … a woman who can be trusted with his heart. Apply the suggested tips and you’ll be well on your way to creating a safe space for a man to feel your acceptance.
To recap,
Here are 4 tips on how to get a man to open up emotionally to you:-
- He needs to feel safe with you.
- Be genuinely interested in him.
- Build him up with your words.
- Do not belittle him when his weaknesses are exposed.
If this article has been helpful to you, please leave a comment!
Thanks for stopping by!
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With love & laughter,
Kimberly Garth
Other Helpful Resources:
“Why You Need to Understand Single Men”.
“5 Qualities that Attract a Man to a Woman”
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Recommended Books:
The New Eve: Choosing God’s Best for Your Life by Robert Lewis
Choosing God’s Best: Wisdom for Lifelong Romance by Dr. Don Raunikar
