After each birthday celebration, Chrissy thinks, “Will this be my year?”  She is faced with the fact that she’s getting older and she has no husband.  Why is God making her wait so long?

Chrissy finds herself praying for a husband more and more.  But yet, nothing seems to change.  She wonders if God has forgotten her.   Needless to say, she is beginning to lose hope.  Will she ever get married?

There are countless reasons why you might remain single for much longer than you expected.  If your life is lived in total surrender to God, then you can rest in the fact that God will orchestrate the events of your life in His marvellous timing.

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Here are 6 reasons why God has you waiting long:

1) God wants you to be totally set apart for Him.

The truth is you can accomplish a whole lot more than a married Christian woman.  When I was a single woman, my life was devoted to the fulfillment of the Great Commission.  There was no need to collaborate with a husband with respect to time, activities, travel, projects, etc.  

Here’s a reality check ladies.  When you’re married, you will have less available time and your focus WILL be divided.  Without a mistake, you have a level of freedom that no Spirit-led married woman can have.  If she is overly focused on external ministry to the neglect of her family, she doesn’t understand her God-given priorities of being a wife.    

“… and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:34

2) To change your perspectives about men.

Your period of singleness might be lengthened because you may need a change in mindset.  For example, I was only interested in men who were missionaries.  All other men seemed too materialistic and worldly for me.  Therefore, God had to break my erroneous mindset before my husband and I got together.  That mindset took many years to break!  God also had to change the way in which I related to men.  

Look inwardly to see if you have mindsets that might need to change about men.

Check out my article, 5 Guys to Consider as Future Husbands.

3) God is maturing you.

Marriage is not for the faint-hearted.  If you are going to enjoy being married, you have to grow up.  You must learn to be more merciful, gracious, forgiving and the list goes on.  In essence, become a true follower of Christ, not only in words but in thoughts and actions. 

Selfish attitudes will never produce a happy marriage.  Each individual has to make a conscious effort to die daily in order to bless and please the other person.  As you mature in Christ and your character begins to become more like Him, then you realise that the world doesn’t revolve around you but rather, Christ should be the center. 

Also, God might be requiring you to get help in overcoming past hurts, trauma and even strongholds like porn addiction.  God wants you to have a healthy marriage so He might delay it until you are ready for it.  More and more, I think preparation for marriage should involve seeing a counsellor.😀

4)  God is preparing your future husband.

Perhaps, God has you waiting because your future husband might not be ready for you or even marriage.  God might be working on him just as he is working on you.  If you were to ask my husband, he would also say that he was not ready for marriage when we had first met.  

Ladies, growth takes time.  But when you trust God’s wisdom and sovereignty, you can be certain that you will meet a good man who is the right fit for you.  By the way, several men could actually be a complimentary fit for you.  

5) God has a specific purpose for you as a single woman.

If the purpose God has for you is best served as a single woman, then God might have you waiting long.  It can even be that you might never get married.  But don’t despair, God will give you the grace.  I believe that a person can be so satisfied with God that marriage is not even a desire.  

I was speaking to a widow recently whose deceased husband was very good to her.  Surprisingly, she wasn’t lonely and she said that she will never marry again.  Her love for Jesus and her intimacy with Him was all that mattered to her.  In her voice, she sounded like a woman totally in love.  

Honestly, my desire for the Petals Bloom community is that Jesus will reign first place in our hearts so that marriage pales in comparison.  

6) God knows that marriage is not the best fit for you.

God knows who you are and He knows what is best for you.  You might actually be happier single than married.  Trust Him to execute a plan in your best interest.  He knows you better than you know yourself.  In this case, your only marriage might be at the marriage supper of the Lamb (Revelation 19:6-9).  Try my “Single & Content Self-Assessment” and see how single and content you are.  The results just might surprise you! You might realise that singleness is better for you!

‘Then I heard what seemed to be the voice of a great multitude, like the roar of many waters and like the sound of mighty peals of thunder, crying out,

“Hallelujah! For the Lord our God the Almighty reigns. Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready; it was granted her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure”— for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints. And the angel said[a] to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.” And he said to me, “These are the true words of God.”’ Revelation 19:6-9

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Summary

You may not understand why your sincere prayer for a husband seems to go unanswered year after year.  But I assure you that God is hearing your heartfelt cries.  Undoubtedly, God has you waiting long for good reasons, some of which I have discussed above.  He is sovereign and has a reason for everything He allows under the sun.  As such, you need to trust Him in His wisdom and goodness while you wait on Him.

On another note, you might be complicating getting married and God is waiting on you!😂 Read 5 Truths About Why You’re Still Single.

What makes the wait difficult for you?  How have you been dealing with it?  Please comment below.  Thanks for stopping by!

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With love & laughter,

Kimberly Garth

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